Jakarta – Mr. Untung Subroto, M.Psi is a Clinical Psychologist & Part-time Lecturer at LSPR Communication and Business Institute in a video webinar on the LSPR Jakarta YouTube channel, sharing briefings on “Know Yourself”, why we need to know ourselves, why we often confine ourselves and roughly caused by what. Get to know yourself, are you always happy, have lots of friends, are you quick to solve problems, or are you a person who pulls away often, is always sad and feels that everyone doesn’t like it, is more comfortable being compared to friends?

We also need to understand the parenting patterns of our parents. There are 3 kinds of ways in which you care for children, the first is Tiger Mom, usually, you will be fierce or do not want to listen to the words of their children, assume all the words you have are true, all children raised with this pattern usually children become unable to make decisions, all is determined by his parents namely Mother. The second parenting style is JellyFish Mom, such as allowing children to stay overnight at a friend’s place, returning home at night, parents freeing their children, children who are raised with parenting usually become irregular, all things want to be fulfilled because Mother has no firmness. Finally Dolphin Mom, children are given freedom but must be responsible, children are allowed to express opinions but are invited to discuss with parents

There are also characteristics, this is also influenced by the order of birth, you are the number of children from your family, each child has its own characteristics, the oldest child is usually dominant, then selfishly selfish, because the oldest child is usually a symbol of a family or role model of a family, the eldest child also protects and has a high desire to succeed, because it is a good example of a family. Middle child, usually depends on whether he behaves well with his younger siblings and older siblings so he is a middle child who has a competitive spirit and healthy life, but if it is not compact with his youngest brother, and is despised by his eldest brother then he will become a hesitant child

Finally, the youngest child is usually spoiled but depends on the pattern of parenting, the youngest child also has a self-centered nature, he wants to be treated special, but the youngest child also has the need to achieve something. An only child, they like solitude because there are no other friends or siblings, usually, an only son is close to his mother, an only daughter is close to his father, the order of the child also affects a person’s characteristics

Our psychological condition is greatly affected by the warmth of a family, whether the family or home is a comfortable place for a child or an unsafe or scary place, children usually avoid the house if the house is full of violence, mother and father often conflict, or a lot of violence – domestic violence. There is also a trauma condition that can cause or influence a person’s psychological condition, which is bullying. Now a person is bullied not only because he has limitations, but also because he is smart, interesting, and has achievements, this greatly affects one’s psychological, from the event will form a personality and psychological condition

When we have made peace with the past, we can forgive what has happened to us, because we cannot always forget all that. Try to assess things from different angles and live healthily, don’t make unclear diagnoses on the website, stop self-diagnosis because it will cause yourself to speculate and suggest that diagnosis, even though in reality the diagnosis does not happen to us. If we want to know whether we have a disorder or not, the best way is to ask a psychologist and a psychiatrist, a professional who can determine whether you are sick or not.

We are said to experience interference when the duration, frequency, and intensity have occurred a long time ago. People can be said to have a mental disorder if the duration has fulfilled 1-6 months, each specific disorder has a period that meets the new can be said to experience interference. Then the frequency, how many times you have experienced the disorder, the intensity when it happened how severe the condition. If it has been protracted, it often occurs for days, and when it happens to have tremendous pressure, you should go to a professional because it meets the duration, frequency, and intensity.

“We don’t need to be other people, because everyone is unique and different. We also don’t need to think about what other people are saying, because our lives are our own lives, “said Mr. Profit. When we follow the standards of others, we will feel dissatisfied, not happy with our lives. We need to learn not to care for some things because not all must be obeyed. Every person has weaknesses and strengths, to increase self-confidence find our own strengths, there is no need to be another person, because who knows ourselves is ourselves, recognize and then add potential or skills, to increase our confidence.

Then Overthinking is also not good for health. People who overthinking will cause anxiety, when we are worried our immune system will decline, we also don’t want to do anything, we can do carelessly, therefore “think about what is worth thinking about and discard things that are not worth thinking about. ” Said Mr. Untung Subroto, M.Psi 

Article by Putri Syifa

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